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When an Invitation Ends – The Beloved Trickster

Last week my invitation to be on a real estate team ended. I have been considering what to tell you about this experience which would be useful to your own journey. After much reflection, it seems that the place to start is to tell you that the end of an invitation is not the end of the world. When an invitation begins well, it can also end well.

When an invitation begins well it can also end well.

If you have ever correctly entered into an invitation and were left scratching your head when it ended, please don’t waste your time (and precious energy) wondering what happened. And by all means, don’t blame yourself or the others involved.

As I was processing this with a very wise Projector (thank you Saeri!), she mentioned the trickster energy that can come into play when you enter into a correct invitation. Sometimes when you go in, it looks like you’re going in to get a certain thing. When you get there it turns out you’re there for an entirely different purpose. If you’re wise to the trickster energy, you can stay unattached to the outcome, and it makes for a much smoother ride.

In this case, the trickster dangled the promise of making a good income (in a way that is correct for me) in front of my face. It looked like that was where I was going. Although my splenic authority resonated deeply with the invitation, I suspected that there was more to the purpose of the experience. I felt it. However my mind would’ve been reluctant to take the bait (and would’ve tortured me with its monkey mind gyrations), had it not been set up in a way that met its expectations. The trickster comes to trick the mind into going along for the ride.

Had the trickster not come to draw us (me and my team mates) into this experience, I would’ve retreated back to my home office, still clueless about a few things that I dearly needed to experience. I would not have received the wisdom that my 3/5 profile is destined to discover. And I would not have some crucial pieces of clarity to share with you and others.

So after a wild year-long ride through the world of the mainstream, what did I get from this experience? There is so much richness here that I hardly know what to share now and what to save for later, so that you are not overwhelmed. I got three main things from my adventure in the real estate world that I would not have gotten by sitting behind my desk at home.

  1. I got a window into the the mainstream generator work world, and came to a deep understanding of what sacral beings must do to have satisfaction in their career. Their systems are challenging, complicated and labor intensive…. and they like it that way!
  2. With regard to sacral beings with a lot of individual circuitry (as my team mates were), I developed a deep appreciation for the struggles that they face. The system is designed for conformity and is stacked in the favor of success through homogenized practices. I watched them struggle between what is truly correct for their individuality and the tried and true practices of the business tribe. In the end what worked for their individuality did not work to sustain the team.
  3. Most importantly I gained a powerful new confidence in the magic of who I am. I felt first hand, what works (and doesn’t work) when it comes to connecting with others. I discovered that the people whom I’m here for already recognize and trust me. They will come to me, regardless of what I do or how I do it. I had insight about this prior to the real estate adventure, but now I that I’ve seen it in action, it’s imbedded in my cells.

So dear Projector, this has been the most liberating and empowering journey yet! Thanks for following my adventures. There is more to come for sure. In the meantime I am returning to my desk in my home office (and to my orchard, and also to some minor new invitations) to gather everything I have learned and channel it back into serving you.

The Drudgery of Work – How to Be Wise About It

As a Human Design Projector you are not here to work like most other people.  Projectors have an undefined sacral center so the energy for work comes and goes.  And because of this, even the simplest activities can turn into drudge work under certain circumstances.  By drudge I mean those activities which bore the crap out of you so much so that you wish they would just do themselves.  They are the ones that you dread because they suck the life out of you.

stressfulA lovely Projector asked about how she can deal with drudge work .  If you find that there are times when you just don’t want to do “it” … whatever it is … you get what she means by drudgery.

If you’re doing hard, physical labor you need to know that most Human Design Projectors are not equipped to do this on a continuous basis.  That open sacral center may fool you into believing you can when you’re around a bunch of Generators, but do this too often and you may find yourself flat out exhausted.  Even the most tenacious Projector will eventually succumb to exhaustion from amplifying all of that Generator sacral energy in their undefined sacral center.  That said, the flipside advantage of the Projector’s undefined sacral is the eventual ability to become wise about how, when and what to do about work.

So here’s what I invite you to do the next time you’re faced with a mind numbing or body draining task.  Start to play with how you can become wise about dealing with the drudgery.

#1 – Can you get out of it?  Well if you have a hamper full of dirty clothes and no one to wash them for you, you probably have to do it.  That’s just a tiny example.  If you’re in a job that’s draining the life out of you it’s a whole different story.  It’s entirely possible that no amount of wise management will keep you afloat and you might have to jump ship. (this is where strategy and authority come in)

Ok if you can’t get out of the mundane, here are some things to consider when you’re experimenting with wisdom about work:

  • Drudge work is “drudgyer” if you haven’t taken care of yourself.  If you’re tired because your self-care is suffering everything is harder.  You run out of energy quicker.  You have less tolerance for even the smallest of tasks that you don’t want to do.
  • You don’t have to do everything yourself.  Even the busiest Generators delegate stuff that they don’t want or can’t do … just to save them time.  Delegating saves a Projector precious vital force energy!
  • Procrastination can become a fine art when you are following your own timing.   You may discover that some things don’t need to be done at all, or something shows up to make it easier. Of course if procrastination is creating more stress it may not be wise to use it.
  • One Projector’s work is another Projector’s joy.  Drudge work can sometimes be a matter of perspective.  When joy is your guide the unavoidable work gets done easily. Perhaps every Projector resonates deep down inside with the bit of wisdom that says “If it ain’t fun don’t do it”.  But what if you can’t get out of it and you aren’t in a position to delegate it?  Is it possible to make it fun with a joyful incentive?  Here’s an example…
My kitchen floor needs to be washed.  Whenever I can, I hire someone to come and do it.  Lately I haven’t deemed it possible, so I put it off.  So today I got a little “joyful incentive”… my husband informed me that he’s sending me 4 lobsters for my birthday which will be here on Friday.  I immediately got excited about having friends over for dinner and voila!… the energy for washing the floor showed up!
Of course I’ve been laying low and conserving energy for the past few days and have planned a
day off after my “clean the kitchen floor and host a dinner party extravaganza”. That’s how I’m
becoming more wise about work …
How about you?  How are you becoming wise about work?

Resources from the September Projector Teleconference

Sweet Gum LeafThe September Projector Teleconference was filled with lots of valuable questions and experiences from the Projectors who participated live.  One question in particular about transits and how they benefit Projectors requires a little follow up.

In the recording we briefly talked about what the planetary transits are in general and how to use them to gain wisdom about the energies which are affecting your day to day life.  I also mentioned several resources in the recording and I want to lay them out here for any of you who want to start working with the transits in your daily life.

Transit Charts:  You can get a “just now” chart which shows you the gates which are activated for the current timeframe.  The easiest way to get a just now charts is to go to http://jovianarchive.com/Just_Now.  If you would like to get a free program for your computer so you don’t have to be online to check the transits, the free version of the New Sunware program for Human Design Charts can be downloaded here: http://newsunware.com/eng/Neutrinos/FreeVersion.htm

There is a brief overview in the September recording about how to use these transit charts.  But if this is a bit complicated for you or more than you want to keep up with, a couple of Human Design teachers put out excellent weekly overviews.

My teacher, Karen Curry, usually puts out in her weekly emails an overview of the transits for that week.  To get on her list for email updates go to www.understandinghumandesign.com

Another great resource for weekly transits come from Scott Davis who posts video on his You Tube channel, New World Birth.  They are extremely detailed, and if you want to get a better understanding of the influences and themes of the gates as they move through our collective and personal experiences you will get an education by following him.

If you are new to Human Design, and it is enough for you to immerse yourself in your strategy to wait for an invitation don’t get distracted by all of the other complex information which is available through understanding the transits.  It will come in your own time.  Those who have been immersed in their own experiments for a while often feel compelled to study various aspects of Human Design more deeply.  If this is you enjoy your journey through the transits as you ride the currents of energies which benefit us all.

Several More Reasons Why it’s Hard for Human Design Projectors to Wait

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Last week I shared a video about “Why it is So Hard to Wait”.  Of all the things that Human Design Projectors are designed to do, waiting is often the most challenging. There are probably several reasons for that which I didn’t discuss in the video and would like to share with you here.  When you understand what may be hindering your waiting process you might find it easier to settle in to trusting that your strategy could actually work for you.

  1. The right big invitations don’t come along that often.  It’s kind of a no-brainer when you think about it.  You only need one big career change, for example, that is so utterly delicious and engaging that it keeps you enraptured for a long time.  Same holds true for relationships.  Some of us are designed to have variety in our lives… even in relationships.  But for the majority, it only takes one utterly delicious partner to keep us enraptured for many years.  So just the right invitation which offers just the right support or growth opportunity is not necessarily something that needs to come along everyday.  Yet the waiting creates an opening.  And the longer you wait the more you may be tempted to fill that opening.
  2. It takes time to align with your authenticity.  If you’re under 25 and have been raised by someone who is intimately familiar with your Human Design this won’t apply to you.  If you’re older than 30, however, you probably lived a lot of life before you even discovered that there was such a thing as a Human Design Strategy.   Because Projectors are here to know the other, we often don’t know ourselves as well.  So most likely when you found out about your design type and started following your strategy you had a lot of relationships and habits in place which were not a true reflection of you.  It takes time to discover the true you.  And it often takes a lot of changing to turn around the momentum of a life which does not fully support you.  When you let go of those unsupportive relationships and habits, initially you experience gaps and holes which could compel you to fill them up with something… anything… which may not be the right fit for who you really are.
  3. Conditioning in the open centers make you want to take action rather than wait.  Of all the design types, Projectors are often the most susceptible to conditioning.  Our energy fields can be like sponges as we take in and sample other people’s energy.  So here’s how it shows up in your life.  The open sacral center compels you to work and do when you’re around sacral beings.  That is the thing we all have in common.  Then depending on your other open centers, you may feel the desire to take actions to be heard, make others happy or prove your worth to name a few.

Waiting isn’t easy with all these forces and dynamics at play.  If your journey to your true Projector self started with lots of gaps because you let go of a bunch of things that were no longer serving you, remember it’s so important to be mindful of how you’re filling the space.  Is there bitterness in your space, despair, insecurity?  If so, try replacing these heavier energies with hope, healing, and love.  When you clean up your waiting space you will probably be pleasantly surprised at what comes in!

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Why It’s Hard for Human Design Projectors to Wait

As Projectors who have the Human Design strategy to wait for invitations, the wait time is often unnerving and anxiety producing to say the least.  I thought I had become pretty good at waiting until I decided to really pull back and wait for the next thing to come through my business.  What I learned helped me to understand why it’s hard to wait and why it is also very very important to wait with clarity and trust.

This video was made for anyone who is struggling with waiting for someone.  But for Projectors who often have to wait for so long for a big invitation or even for recognition, the message about what you do while you wait could give you something fruitful to consider.

Discovering what authority really feels like…

Another great post from by Ethan Emerson  www.facebook.com/poeticrhythms

Originally Written April 7, 2012

Pencil with "Y" Circled For YesThe more I still my mind and create spaces for myself where I am thoughtless, the more in touch with my body I become. In combination with using my inner authority to make decisions (Solar Plex) I have been experiencing something very interesting… (I have no conscious access to my emotions, btw).

What I’ve found is that when I am presented with a situation to make a decision on, when my mind is still (meaning I am not mentally processing the decision) I either get hit with an immediate physical feeling that to me is NO or an immediate physical feeling that to me is a YES. Or, I get nothing at all. And I’ve found that getting nothing is what happens when I consciously try to access how I feel. You know, consciously forcing myself to think about the decision maybe by looking at a list of “decisions I need to make” or what have you. The only times I get a YES or a NO are when the subject pops into my mind at random times – unplanned, it just happens. In the shower, while I’m eating dinner, in the middle of a movie. Randomly.

The “YES” feeling feels like an enhanced, fast-paced, intense surge of my own aura for a brief moment flowing in it’s natural state almost like it’s a fast, intense “pulse” of my natural auric energy.

The “NO” feeling feels like a momentary block in the flow of my aura. Like for that moment, everything shrinks into the middle in resistance and it pulses the same physical sensation through my body from head to toe that I feel when I am in a situation where I feel fear.

What happens is that I take, say, a week or two to make a decision. Each day I randomly check-in with myself on the decision to be made. And each time I check in, I get one of the two feelings described above. When I randomly think of the decisions to be made (they just end up in my thoughts) I get hit with the feeling more intensely than if I were to just purposely try to put the decision in my awareness to feel the feeling. Perhaps that’s due to not having conscious access to my emotions. I’m not sure.

But over the last month I’ve been allowing myself to think about my decisions more and more from a place of non-judgment where the thought just enters my mind at random times and I get the intense feeling. But now I’m able to really distinguish what that feeling is – and I’m blown away by the feeling of my own aura flowing at a momentarily increased intensity literally like a PULSE of energy – and I’m just starting to discover this process in a new way.

Previously I would just “test the air” so to speak about how I felt about decisions. But that never worked. I didn’t know how I felt. And it wasn’t until I realized I don’t have conscious access to my emotions did I realize why I wasn’t able to access my inner authority by just choosing to think about my decision.

I’ve found that sitting out in the sun with no purpose helps me in decision making. I just sit outside, soak up the sun, meditate on nothing and it hits me – literally. Maybe this is key for me to allow my decisions to process unconsciously?

And so the journey continues… one day at a time…!

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Riding The Wave

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Originally Written: April 28, 2012 by Ethan Emerson  www.facebook.com/poeticrhythms

Surfer on a WaveAfter taking the last 2 months to isolate myself from as much conditioning as possible, living an eventless life purposely to allow myself to settle into my body and really feel what it’s like to be who I am… I’ve actually come to have some very surprising experiences. Conceptually I always got that nothing others do or say creates the way we feel – we are always the source of our emotions (yes, even if someone punches me in the face if I feel anger it’s not because of being punched in the face) however, there was a dilemma. Was I really choosing my emotional state? I don’t remember consciously choosing what I feel, ever. And now I’ve gotten to the bottom of it.

Emotions really are just chemistry! Literally. There is no cause for feeling sad, lonely, angry, disappointed, happy, elated, etc. it is literally just chemistry. It’s not enough to say that something happens and then we choose how to respond. We don’t choose how to respond. Not consciously, anyway. It just happens like a knee-jerk response. Why? Because we identify with our emotions.

I have a defined solar plex, and so I have my own emotional wave that gradually ratchets up – then gradually ratchets down and completely crashes, and this is just chemistry. No big deal, except to witness the big crash as the passenger – oh, that’s something else. That’s quite an experience. To witness the end of the crash without identifying with it – the doors that just opened for me are incredible.

I am not my body, I am not my emotions, and now I clearly see how this emotional wave just repeats on a cycle over and over – and when I’m climbing up or down on my wave if I am attached to identifying with the emotions that pass through my body, I think that circumstances and people around me are contributing to and/or causing my heightened feelings labeled desirable/undesirable but that’s not the truth at all.

IT’S JUST CHEMISTRY!

Saying that emotions are “just chemistry” is not the same as saying “I am responsible for how I feel, and I can feel happy in any circumstance, even if I’m in prison or being faced with torture.” No. Emotions being pure chemistry is different than taking “responsibility” for how I feel. Taking “responsibility” for my emotions is another not-self mindtrap – I am not responsible for the emotions that pass through my body at all. And the more I try to trick my mind into believing I am, the more I will be misled to believe that I somehow have control over the emotions that pass through my body. Clearly, I do not. It is just chemistry and it goes up and it crashes down and I am not in control.

What does that mean? Nothing, really, unless I choose to make it mean something. But at the end of the day all it really means is that the emotional wave always has and always will continue to rise and fall and I am just along for the ride. Where’s the freedom in that? Well, by not identifying with the emotional wave and getting that it is just chemistry, I can coexist with the emotional wave and just take a backseat to all of it. Just watch it. Observe it. Be the passenger. Not try to change or control it in any way. “Oh, look, there it goes…”

The sentiment that we are somehow “responsible” for our emotions implies choice in the way we feel. The truth is there is no choice – there is only chemistry. And in recognizing that all there is, is chemistry – that’s where the true power of freedom comes… to be the passenger… the power is not to choose happiness in the face of sadness. That’s just adding on more layers of bullshit to your original bullshit. You can’t control it. The power is in not identifying with the emotions in the first place, and, despite what you feel in your physical body, maintaining your flow of allowing it all to just be. Not labeling it wanted or unwanted. Just ride the wave – you can’t change it!

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Recognize When You’re On the Way to Burnout

For the past few weeks I’ve been hard at work… oh that dirty word for Projectors… “Work”… Yes I do that to maintain and grow my business.  As you may know, the work experience for Projectors is often a very different thing from how the rest of the world experiences it.  Yet it often looks the same.  We Projectors usually need lots of space and downtime as we go about our money making opportunities.  And I thought I was doing that until I had an epiphany!  Last week I wrote this post about that over at the Coaching With Sandy blog, and I think it bears repeating here.  The path to burnout starts out faintly and this little realization may help you to recognize it way before it takes full hold.

Reprinted from www.coachingwithsandy.com

Don’t Ever Take Time Off Because This Will Happen

IT guy's vacationI was having a wonderful day off not long ago.  My usual intake of internet stimuli had been drastically reduced, and I had all intentions of floating through my day with hardly a thought about work.  Surely my business could survive for just 24 hours without me hovering over it, wallowing in it and doting on it.  Well one would think that would be easy right?  After all, my automatic tweets, social media updates and email responses were up to date.  Appointments had been scheduled and confirmed, and I was at a place in my latest creation where I could stop.  And actually I needed to stop and take a rest… do something else, like actually make a meal by using the stove and maybe even do a little gardening to get my hands in the dirt.

So I want to share what happened next with you because I bet it has happened to you.  I got all relaxed… took a leisurely walk, got a massage, and then took another leisurely walk… just because I could… and POW!  I got just relaxed enough that the creative ideas started pouring in.  All those pieces I needed for my next creative project were floating through the wall I had hit just the night before.  Ugh!  I was supposed to be resting and giving my mind and body a break.  Instead I was spending my precious energy trying to resist sitting at my desk and letting it all flow in.  Panic set in.  If I ended my time off early so I could work on this project some more, then I wouldn’t get the rest I knew I needed to actually complete it.  If I just let the ideas flow through me they might not come back in the brilliant way that they first appeared.  So I compromised and jotted down some notes to review the next day.  That satisfied me a bit.  But my mind, which had only just moments before been in a blissful state of relaxation, was in work mode again.  And there was no stopping it this time.  My body also responded to the high alert of this creative download and was ready to jump back in the desk chair, buckle up and ride this thing all the way home.  I did manage to restrain myself from going for it, but in the gyrations that it took to keep me out of the office I had a major epiphany about why this happens and what it means and why it’s a bad idea to succumb to the temptation to work when you need to be resting.

Well it’s probably not news to you that the creative juices get flowing when the body and mind are relaxed.  So I created that situation by allowing myself to relax… or so that’s what logic would say.  And yes it is true, it was the backing off and letting my guard down that actually allowed the ideas to come.  But here’s the epiphany part… The creative flow that I experienced was actually a teeny tiny signal that I was on a slow descent into burnout.  Yes burnout! … that dirty word that makes you exhausted just from thinking about it.  It was a signal that I had not been giving myself enough rest and space on a regular basis.  Sure I was giving myself a day off.  And actually I had been forcing myself to take a day off in the middle of the week to avoid burnout.  But the truth is that if I had been giving myself what I needed to be relaxed all the time, I wouldn’t have had to force myself to rest.  I would have been well rested and in a perpetual state of relaxation.

So what happened was kind of like slowly turning off the flow of water to your house.  I had very subtly shut down the flow of my creative life-force by pushing a tiny bit here and resisting a little rest there.  And when I turned on my faucet by taking a day off, what rushed out was a backlog of pent up creative energy.  You know how when the water gets turned off at your house you turn on the faucet and what had built up comes rushing out?  When you let it run for a while it runs dry.  That’s kind of like what happens in this very early warning state of burnout.  So if I had allowed the flow to continue in that moment it wouldn’t be long until it all ran out.  That’s what burnout is… a lack of flow because the source is depleted.  I was a ways from becoming totally depleted, but if I had not seen this cue and had that epiphany, eventually the core of me would have run dry.

Don’t let this happen to you.  Listen to your subtle cues.  Don’t succumb to your second winds.  Give yourself lots of breaks everyday, whenever you need them, with no hesitation or apologies.  When you do this the big days off won’t be riddled with the rush of backed up life-force which only gets to come out when you force yourself to rest.  Let it flow all the time and give it plenty of space to spread out.

Everyone is designed to work and rest in a different way.  

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