Category Archives: Recognition

The Power of Silence for Human Design Projectors

SilenceWe all talk about how important it is for a Human Design Projector to wait to be recognized before speaking so as to not waste their precious energy.  It is is one thing to talk about being silent and it is another thing altogether to actually practice and see the results. Over in the Bitterness to Joy Facebook group there has been some discussion about what happens when a Projector practices the discipline of silently watching and waiting. Here is an exchange I had with one of the group participants as she shared the results.

C Wrote:  

“…I’ve been self contained, smiling and doing ‘lots’ of listening lately. I’ve been so quiet at work for weeks now. It has been difficult but the payoffs are great. I’ve had two very shy colleagues come up and compliment me, out of the blue. They radiated warmth and sincerity, it meant so much. Going against my exuberant nature felt awful at first but now I am getting used to it and I am finding the benefit of NO frustration because I’m not being ignored or rejected. I can’t be if I’m not saying much. … Also, I am liking myself more and looking more ‘inward’ for rewards, rather than outwards, from others. Confidence, a ‘quiet’ confidence is way up.”

My Response:

“…awesome practice! The great conundrum for Projectors is to be self-contained while also being here for others. I think that since we are naturally here for others, through the nature of our auras, the discipline of self containment adds to the power of our auric presence. It’s kind of a slippery balance between not being able to know ourselves fully, and embracing the preciousness of what we exude enough to contain it and wait. It’s kind of like what I said in the profiles class about the projection field of the 2. Same is probably true for Projectors in general. When we pull the energy in by waiting, watching and being in a stance of receptivity, it creates a dynamic which pushes the energy out in a very powerful and attractive way. C… I think you’re seeing this power in how your aura managed to bring some very shy people out of their shells.”

I kind of doubt … that you have abandoned your exuberance altogether, and I’m wondering how you see your potency now that you have adopted this discipline?”

C’s Answer:

re: the shy colleagues, it was also a reminder of how scary, or overwhelming the old, more exhuberant and intellectual self could be , maybe other projectors too, to the quieter, more shy generators of the world.

My Reply:

“We do not know our own strength”


You are truly more powerful than you know, and your ability to affect others often requires no words!  How is your experiment with silence and waiting going?  Please share with us in the comments box…

The Importance of Recognition for Human Design Projectors

This is a personal share about an epiphany I had over the weekend.  Human Design Projectors are here to realize success by being recognized and invited by the right people into the things which allow them to use their gifts and talents to manage, guide and direct.  That’s not the epiphany.  As I’m sure that if you have been studying your design for a while, you already know this.  Success and the recognition / invitations which follow, usually come from mastering a system.  That’s not the epiphany either.  You, like me, may have studied and mastered a lot of systems.  But if something is missing for you, something that makes you feel like you’re not in a place where you fully live in the success you have achieved, this epiphany may make things clearer for you.

Here’s my epiphany:

It’s important as a Projector to have formal recognition for the system you master.  Maybe if you have a lot of individual circuitry in your chart this is not so important (I’m not sure). But I realized this weekend, while sharing Human Design at a ministerial conference where a few ministers were being awarded Doctoral degrees, that it’s not enough for me to master what I study.  I actually need to be formally recognized for it among people who truly see me…. a room full of flesh and bones people who are there to celebrate my success and really get what it means to have achieved the accomplishment.  Maybe you already know this and have done this.  For me it was a deep recognition of myself and what I know at the core of my heart to be the missing piece to feeling ultimately successful.

group recognition

For years I denied that need… perhaps not even recognizing that it was a need … because I kept trying to believe that the formal recognition and celebration aren’t important.  And meanwhile I moved from thing to thing, mastering to a certain degree this technique and that approach, but never getting to where I felt I arrived.  It’s the story of the gate 48 … studying everything under the sun because you don’t feel you know enough.  The truth is I have felt that I have known enough for quite a while actually, but a persistent sense of incompletion has nagged me ever since I quit a Masters Degree program midstream 30 years ago to lick the wounds of a broken heart.  All of these years I have managed to realize some success through studies that allowed me to work around not having that one piece of paper that says “Yes I do know what I know and I mastered it”. As time went on, the formalized programs which would give me the opportunity to complete that degree stopped speaking to me.  And that’s where I picked up the belief that perhaps the recognition wasn’t important.

Then as I sat in that room with those Doctoral candidates over the weekend, the understanding came.  I am a master already, but not one that formalized academic study would recognize without me jumping through a whole bunch of other hoops and overworking myself to learn things I don’t care about to prove what I already know.  This is not something my deconditioning undefined will center feels like doing.  But still the need for formal recognition exists.  When I attended the Doctoral confirmation ceremony I finally realized that my perspective has been too limited. It’s not that I don’t need the recognition for my mastery, it’s just that the mastery has gone beyond the limits of what I think of as formal recognition.  It’s not that I need to complete a degree… or any degree.  It’s that I need to complete the degree that is reflective of the heights I am achieving.  I need to  be formally celebrated and supported by my people in a way where my gate 48 can’t deny that I’m ready, I know and I’m prepared.

The weekend was filled with recognition like I had never experienced before.  One person even thought that she had ordained me into the ministry last year.  I met people whom I know I was destined to meet.  And I made connections at a deep heart level with people I already know and people I had just met.  And then I remembered the invitation I received over a year ago to become a part of this organization.  At the time, my defined head and ajna rejected it because I am already an ordained minister.   Why would I need another accolade like that?  And now I know that I was not being invited to achieve the accolade but to receive the recognition and support from the right group of people, and to allow myself to be fully acknowledged for the mastery I am attaining.

When I shared with some friends that I am pondering the possibility of getting a Doctorate of Divinity, my left brained finally accepted my need for this type of recognition.  … the right brain was already convinced through the feel of the experience … An advanced degree automatically opens doors that just don’t exist before you get the degree.  For a Projector whose success depends on having doors opened for them, it’s only logical to pursue something that would open those doors.

If you’re waiting on doors to open, it may be that you need to pursue your passions in a way that allow you to receive formal recognition from your people. It may be that you need to achieve new heights, not in what you know, but in how you are recognized for who you are. It could take some time to line this up from the inside… to emerge into your true self and to be seen and invited.  It’s my hope that by sharing this, it won’t take you as long as it took me to accept how important recognition is to your success.

You’re invited to share your experiences with success and formal recognition.  Do you feel you need it in order to succeed?