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The Power of Silence for Human Design Projectors

SilenceWe all talk about how important it is for a Human Design Projector to wait to be recognized before speaking so as to not waste their precious energy.  It is is one thing to talk about being silent and it is another thing altogether to actually practice and see the results. Over in the Bitterness to Joy Facebook group there has been some discussion about what happens when a Projector practices the discipline of silently watching and waiting. Here is an exchange I had with one of the group participants as she shared the results.

C Wrote:  

“…I’ve been self contained, smiling and doing ‘lots’ of listening lately. I’ve been so quiet at work for weeks now. It has been difficult but the payoffs are great. I’ve had two very shy colleagues come up and compliment me, out of the blue. They radiated warmth and sincerity, it meant so much. Going against my exuberant nature felt awful at first but now I am getting used to it and I am finding the benefit of NO frustration because I’m not being ignored or rejected. I can’t be if I’m not saying much. … Also, I am liking myself more and looking more ‘inward’ for rewards, rather than outwards, from others. Confidence, a ‘quiet’ confidence is way up.”

My Response:

“…awesome practice! The great conundrum for Projectors is to be self-contained while also being here for others. I think that since we are naturally here for others, through the nature of our auras, the discipline of self containment adds to the power of our auric presence. It’s kind of a slippery balance between not being able to know ourselves fully, and embracing the preciousness of what we exude enough to contain it and wait. It’s kind of like what I said in the profiles class about the projection field of the 2. Same is probably true for Projectors in general. When we pull the energy in by waiting, watching and being in a stance of receptivity, it creates a dynamic which pushes the energy out in a very powerful and attractive way. C… I think you’re seeing this power in how your aura managed to bring some very shy people out of their shells.”

I kind of doubt … that you have abandoned your exuberance altogether, and I’m wondering how you see your potency now that you have adopted this discipline?”

C’s Answer:

re: the shy colleagues, it was also a reminder of how scary, or overwhelming the old, more exhuberant and intellectual self could be , maybe other projectors too, to the quieter, more shy generators of the world.

My Reply:

“We do not know our own strength”


You are truly more powerful than you know, and your ability to affect others often requires no words!  How is your experiment with silence and waiting going?  Please share with us in the comments box…